If you are new in this adventure, read this short topic and maybe some things will get clear to you!
So, there are two ways to meet a woman in FSU in general:
1. Just come here and arrange as many meetings with women as you can. A very popular opinion: "One personal meeting worth of 1000 letters".
2. Start preparations for a trip 2 - 3 months before you go: look through catalogs, contact 20-50 ladies and come to the FSU to meet 3 - 8 of them in person.
I respect both views, but my experience tells that percentage of success of the Way #2 is much higher than of the Way #1. I asked myself: WHY? Where is the reason?? I talked to my girls, talked to men, analyzed men/women emotions after both kinds of personal meetings (prepared with the letters exchange and unprepared).
I see my girls every day coming to our office to pick up mail, bringing their replies for translation/forwarding. I can see that the interest in a man grows up very slowly, from one letter to another. A woman's psychology is different than the man's one. We have a saying here: "Man loves with his eyes, but a woman loves with her ears". It describes very sharply the sense of what I would like to explain: for a man it is sometimes enough just to see a woman, he accepts her through his eyes and he is ready to admit that he is ATTRACTED! So, for a man it is really better just to come and to see! On the other hand there are TWO persons in the story named LOVE: He and She. Her feeling count as well! BUT just a WOMAN's lack of interest breaks a hope to start relationship! WHY??? The point is that she "... love with her ears"... I.e. it works differently for a woman! To ACCEPT a man, to let him come into her heart, to make her eyes sparkling and full of interest she has to be READY for such personal meeting. How can she get ready for it? Yes, only through her ears! Being romantic in the heart and dreaming about true love she wants passionately to HEAR words of love or at least words of interest, even a simple compliments about how is she pretty, intelligent and how much a YOU want to see her tete-a-tete, to look into her eyes, to take her hand and to kiss her... You can tell al this in your letters (I don't mean in the first one, but after a month or two after you start communication!). Guess what a woman will do :)?? She will read and re-read your letters, she will look at your photo and...DREAM. She'll dream about you, about your first meeting, about looking at your eyes and all this is what I mean when I say that "She has to get ready" for the meeting.
When you meet a lady that you never talked to I bet she will be indifferent completely and there is a very little chance to make her interested in you without a language unless you are Leonardo D. Caprio :))! It is especially true for those of you who wants a much younger lady... Sorry to tell this, but it is so...
A first personal meeting that is desirable for two people ends with successful continuation much more often.
I could hear so many times from my girls the way they call men who just arrive and arrange meetings. They call such men "Straying" and they don't like to be a small and unimportant unit of the chain of his numerous meetings. Of course, it is my job to try to change their minds, but it is not easy to do....
I know men who arrived to see only one lady and the meetings finished with a weddings. I had a client who met 25 girls a day (YES! All meetings were scheduled in cafe, 30 min for each, like an interview) and this man returned to the US without any luck! Please, agree that it is IMPOSSIBLE to understand anything when you meet a person so shortly! Same for women...
Please, do not accept this my point of view as an attempt to make you writing letters so that I can make money on it!!! As you may see we successfully sell Personal Tours (details are at http://www.charming-lady.net/tour.shtml) and help men meet women by the way #1, too!!! It is only my sincere wish to open for you some experience of my work in this business for almost 7 years.
So, dear men, make your personal choice of the way :))!!
Sincerely yours,
Natasha Varetskaya, Ph.D.